In a recent interview with Lynn Ngugi, renowned media personality Joyce Gituro shared a raw and honest account of her experiences navigating the complexities of dating as a single mother after her separation from her husband.
Joyce began by revealing the unique challenges she faced in the dating world as a single mother, admitting that she reached a point where she contemplated returning to her former husband due to the difficulties encountered.
Dating, she expressed, took on a different dimension when you are a single mother, with people approaching and treating you differently.
“I tried dating during that time. Let me tell you, I got to a point where I was like, ‘Waaah, afadhali nirudi hata kwa yule bwanangu.’ There is this thing about dating as a single mother. People date you differently,” she shared candidly.
The media personality acknowledged the distinct treatment that single mothers often receive in the dating scene and expressed her admiration for men who embrace single mothers with genuine love and respect for their children.
Reflecting on her personal journey, Joyce recounted a two-year relationship that, despite its promising start, eventually revealed its shortcomings.
She observed a lack of concern for her children’s well-being and realized that her partner prioritized her over her children, a red flag she couldn’t ignore.
“Dating as a single mother, I was shocked. I tried dating during that time and got into a relationship that lasted for two years. Initially, it was a very good relationship with a mature person, but with time you start thinking, ‘Where are we headed?'” she questioned.
Joyce’s openness extended to admitting the pitfalls of rebound relationships, emphasizing the importance of entering a relationship with a clear understanding of feelings and intentions.
Despite lacking a strong foundation or shared goals, she found herself deeply invested in a rebound relationship, only to experience profound disappointment upon its end.
“The mistake that most ladies make, because I also did, is rebound. I went into this relationship not knowing why I loved him. There’s nothing between you, it’s just that relationship, but you are totally in love,” she confessed.
Following the breakup, Joyce underwent a period of introspection and personal growth. The experience, though challenging, helped her mature and gain a deeper understanding of herself.
Today, she exudes confidence and self-assurance, recognizing her own worth and setting clear expectations for any future relationships.
Joyce Gituro outlined her criteria for a potential partner, emphasizing shared values, financial stability, and mutual respect. She asserted her stance against financially supporting a partner, emphasizing the need for companionship built on equality and respect.