A Nigerian lady, Anthonia Umerah, has stirred up discussions on social media after revealing why she now finds it difficult to date a man who doesn’t own a car.
The revelation came after she recently purchased her own vehicle, which she says has altered her perspective on relationships.
In a Facebook post, Anthonia shared that since buying her car, she’s become increasingly uncomfortable with the idea of dating men who do not have their own vehicles.
She explained that she can’t imagine the dynamics of such a relationship, particularly the inconvenience of driving a man around during dates.
She wondered aloud whether she would have to be the one driving, parking her car while using a taxi for dates, or even dropping her date off at his place before going home.
For Anthonia, this isn’t about being materialistic but about wanting to maintain her femininity in the relationship. She revealed that, in her mind, being the one to drive a man around feels too masculine and contradicts the image of what she wants in her romantic life.
She acknowledged that while some women may not have this issue, for her, owning a car has made her rethink traditional gender roles in dating.
She also expressed concern that some men may have fragile egos, particularly those with insecurities, and might feel emasculated if their partner owns a car.
She feared that such men could use her car ownership against her in arguments, making the issue more about their ego than their relationship.
This, according to Anthonia, is one of the reasons she now finds it hard to date a man who doesn’t have a car.
Read her full post: “This was previously not a problem for me at all when I didn’t have a car and I know there are woman who naturally don’t like dating men who do not own a car despite not having and it is still very VALID but my own issues about it started since I bought a car and I don’t know why. I feel like; being the one to drive a man up and down is a masculine trait and i want to be feminine. One thing that also scare me about this, is that, a lot of Nigerian mèn have insecurîty issues. Situation like this may bruisè the ego of an insècure man and he will start telling you “is it because you have a car in every little misunderstanding”.
